Dear Nice People, Mean People suck.
Dear nice people,
Yes, mean people suck. They should learn to be more compassionate to others; but, you gotta learn boundaries as well.
When someone makes fun of your hair, your skin, your income, your voice - stop and check your ego before you take it personally.
That human is a living, breathing, walking equation. They are what they are.
2 + 2 = 4. You trying to demand they change their behavior for you is the same as 3 + 1 = 4 grabbing 3 + 2 = 5 and ganging up on 2 + 2 = 4 because they didn't like the way he looked.
2 + 2 = 4 gets scared and doesn't want to be left out. So, instead of examining his truth, decides to claim he's 2 + 2 = 5 so everyone's happy.
But, you can only build so high from an incorrect equation before it topples.
So, 2 + 2 & 2 + 3 & 3 + 1 all topple together (since the second they interacted their equations did too) and when they land their signs and values are all disorganized.
That's what the world looks like right now - a bunch of broken, falling, "is that your sign or mine," values trying to figure out what their equation is, what belongs to someone else, and what parts have to work together to achieve the best results.
Intellect is understanding a person's formula has nothing to do with you and not taking it personally.
Ego is believing everyone's equation should be altered by your presence and getting offended when it's not.
Part of healthy boundaries is learning to leave other people's equations alone. The second you take it personally, you pulled the numbers they showed you into your own and put your ego in charge of their placement. That NEVER ends well. There might be times where it seemed like it in the moment - like you really put them in their place; but, there's no way to add a negative into an equation and not have it affect something at some point.
The other part of healthy boundaries is learning when the numbers are just all wrong and walking away completely.
Part of being nice is being true to your own equation while accepting someone else's without trying to change it. When someone's formula is showing their result, don't try to alter the result based on your own formula. Show yourself kindness and let it be.